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    Pennygirl - as Compass stated if it was at all possible this person would read this - there is NO WAY I would have posted it. She lives in a different part of the city, doesn't believe in blogs, forums (thinks they are to quote her "they are stupid")

    Cate - "There is also a lot to be said for being a gracious guest in kindly accepting what is offered." Thank you, that hits it right on the spot.
    If this person and I were BFF's, hung around each other all the time, someone I had known for a long, long time where I felt comfortable to say something then I probably would have said something about the wine and/or the hand in the wine. That wasn't the case in this particular situation.

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    Gracie, your experience does sound weird. Your hostess showed bad form in sticking her hand in your glass. Even if I might do the same thing at home when a fruit fly dives into my wine or beer, I'd consider it tacky and rude to do it to a guest.

    Compounding that with keeping her house so chilly her guests are cold (and then laughing about it), and knowingly giving you expired food as a present, it sounds like she doesn't give a rat's ass about what others think. I briefly had aquaintance like that, he had an outspoken, "take it or leave it" personality. I chose to leave it. You'll have to decide if accepting another invitation from this woman is worthwhile.

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    After reading BIO's response I am curious as to what are some of the strangest foods people here have tried. When my cousin went to Thailand I asked him what was the strangest thing they served there. He told me at the market there was a 5 gallon bucket filled with leaches and people would just eat them alive.

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    As disgusting as it sounds, its not like she had a rat in her toilet!

    Move along nothing to see here...

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    Edog - not that night she didn't. But had earlier in year. Nothing unusual about that as that happens to many people in Seattle where there is apparently a big rat population. Supposedly our neighborhood white Snow Owl is eating up the rats at Golden Gardens, according to news article.

    And Buff - that is disgusting eating those creepy things.

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    Okay, I'm having another "is it me" moments. This same person gave me a Xmas present that she got online at Angie's List. She has been a member for about a year she said. She proceeded to tell me they were having a special and quoted me the price (really inexpensive). I thanked her a lotwhen I got the email from Angie's with the information and did think very gracious thing to do - until she came up later and asked me to split the cost of half of it. She makes way more money than I do & I thought bizzare to ask someone to split the cost on their present - again is it just me thinking weird?

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    It is not you. Both situations are bizarre!

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    WTF?!!? Gracie, she's a weirdo. Asking you to split the cost of a gift is just beyond the pale. I would seriously break off that friendship.

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    what I find weird is that I currently see an advertisement on the bottom right of this page from ESPN.
    it's an ad for the BCS title game on in an hour.

    does everyone get that same one, or are these ads now customized based on browsing history of user?

    gracie- your friend's a whacko.

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    GI - I, too, have the BCS but nothing about starting in an hour.
    Yep, a little whacky-doo-doo asking someone to split the cost of a present (and I didn't even ask for that Angie's List thing).
    She asked me if I wanted to go to Las Vegas with her in May. Told her straight out Nope, there's no way we could be in the same room because she likes it too cold. And plus, I've never to Vegas & I would want to check out all the sights & not just go from shopping mall to shopping mall like she does. Goes to stores that we have here. Different strokes for different folks!

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    Oh god, can you imagine going on a holiday with her?! Vegas is my idea of hell in the first place, let alone going there with a weirdo friend.

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    OK after laughing my butt off (which after the holiday snacking my butt could frankly use) I have to say quirky with a mild personality issue is one thing like you said Penny, she could be just one of those interesting people, but wow! I feel sorry for her. She really must have no idea what she's doing is odd and although it doesn't sound like she's a bad person you would have to really like her and be willing to be kindly honest with her to stay friends it seems. For example "Well, actually, no, that is an odd request to ask me to pay for my gift. I'd be happy to give it back to you if you would like to use it yourself".
    I'm curious, does she have long term friends or do they just keep cycling through after they've had enough oddness. Also, is she a kind person where it would be easy to over look this stuff. Clearly she is not generous or at least wasn't in this case.

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    Hee hee sorry, I'm still chuckling
    "Hey! Did you like your gift? Yes? Great! That'll be 16.50 please."
    I could save a fortune next Christmas.

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    I don't have a ball in this game LIA. Why did my name come in to it?!!

    Gracie - ditch her asap.

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    Wow! Did she ask you to vacation with her before or after you paid up on your gift?

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    PG - Actually you have four balls at play in this game including this one, the one I think LIA was referring to.
    "LIA - I actually thought she just sounded like one of those quirky characters that actually make life more interesting. I think that a tiny fly in the wine and a cold house sounds much more interesting than one of those sit down dinners where everyone is on their best behavior and no-one says anything as a result."

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    um, what? I have difficulty with social situations, but I know that one of the rules of society is never to ask someone to pay for part of their present UNLESS you ask them before buying the gift (like if it's something special).

    I am thinking this is more than a socialization issue. I suggest having no more than casual contact with her.

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    Penny -
    I said
    If you see maliciousness or meanness that is one thing but if it is all just quirkiness, maybe, as phoo said, if you can get past it you may spend time with an interesting person. People with personality issues are also usually very smart and creative.

    Whereupon you said, I assume, by way of agreeing with me

    LIA - I actually thought she just sounded like one of those quirky characters that actually make life more interesting. I think that a tiny fly in the wine and a cold house sounds much more interesting than one of those sit down dinners where everyone is on their best behavior and no-one says anything as a result.

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    I still wonder why we're talking about someone who is unable to defend themselves. Through this one-sided description, we hear about someone who is quirky. Either be their friend or don't, I think gossiping here isn't all that nice.

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    I actually have done that. I told an ex boyfriend, who had much more money than I, that I needed x amount of dollars. Then I smiled. He realized what i was doing, smiled then gave it to me. Between my money and his he got the gift i knew he wanted. He was pretty cute about it.

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    Bizarre

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    I like the word whereupon

    Just to clarify, when I said "I've done that" I was referring to what Phoo said not what the OP described.

    You're probably right Teigyr but maybe it doesn't bother me because since no one knows her and she doesn't know us it's more theoretical.

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    LIA - I would never post anything here if I knew she would read it. She thinks blogs are "stupid", lives in South Seattle (Renton area). And like you said no one here knows her, in fact you don't know me - I never posted her name, my true full name, where I work, anybody by name.
    Angeline - she asked me to go to Vegas after the pay for the gift thing. I've never been to Vegas and like I said if I was to ever go there I would want to sight see and not go to stores that are here in Seattle.

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    Gracie, we don't know you, but someone who knew you in real life would be able to identify your posts pretty easily. More than almost anyone else on here, you discuss details of your personal and work lives on a regular basis.

    Are you sure that you don't have a mutual friend or acquaintance who might see this thread and tip her off?

    I have a couple of co-workers who read/post on this forum, and when I asked them to guess who I was on here, they nailed it right off the bat. My "personality" is the same online and off.

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    Wierd no, Cheap yes.

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    Ernie + 1

    I don't think many people in Ballard have a kitten named Pickles ;)

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    Amazingly, Buffalo, I have met quite a few people in Ballard who also have or had a cat named Pickles. I was surprised at the number.
    And Ernie, rest assured I would never post anything about an acquaintance, co-worker that could get back to them. I have made sure of that - especialy the work place. No one is affiliated with My Ballard - just little old me. And I'm not the only one here who discusses their personal or work life. It's all over My Ballard blog. But to satisfy you and Buffalo, I will quit. But I will discuss my kitten, if that's okay with you two.

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    We are just looking out for you:) You have a kind vibe.

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    We are just looking at for you" - ???? And I have a kind of vibe. Interesting.

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    haha.. fixed

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    Okay, Buff - that makes a lot more sense :-)

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    I've gone to vegas several times for conventions. It's boring. The convention is fun, but aside from a couple museums, it's really a conservative town (remember, I'm from Portland) with not much to do, apart from pools and gambling. It's just not my bag, though I did enjoy the Penn and Teller show one year. On the bright side, they don't expect you to go outside for the most part.

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    Gracie, be who you are! I was just saying that everything we post is out there for the world to see. It might not be likely that your friend would see this thread, but it is possible.

    Anyway, if she did see it it might be a good excuse not to be friends anymore, she sounds like a drag. :)

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    Huh, that sounds like my co-workers neighbor, same region.
    I'm sure its not who you are dissing, but it sounds like the stories I've heard...

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    ^^^^ See, it's a small world on the interwebs.

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    Gracie, I actually know someone with a cat named Pickles, but she doesn't live in Ballard.

    Teigyr, gossiping might not be "nice," but Gracie's stories are entertaining and a fun diversion while I'm procrastinating from getting work done.

    Gracie, you're not missing much. Vegas sucks big hairy donkey balls. It's near-impossible to find your way outdoors and even if you do, it's not pedestrian-friendly at all. The stores are primarily the same chain shops you'll find everywhere else, it's very expensive and overall it's just a hideous, depressing place, IMHO.

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    Ernie - I happened to read your original post right after handling a very difficult person on a phone call - and unfortunately, took it out on you.
    And GG - I'm sure there's a lot of people out there like this particular person...sadly. I'm sure she doesn't realize how quirky she is & that you don't normally ask someone to pay for part of a gift they gave you. Makes life interesting, that's for sure.

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    Hey I'm all for reading about weird people and what they do - and these aren't malicious things, just odd and who-would-even-think-to-do things. Makes me stop and wonder if anything I do that is weird (don't answer that...)

    My feelings (whoa whoa whoa...feelings) about Las Vegas: When I heard that there was a Matisse painting in a casino there, a little part of me just up and died.

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    Gracies stories are full of contradiction. Gossiping about a co-workers divorce/affair isn't entertaining. Gossiping to her boss (and then basically doing an unethical thing to delete an e-mail she sent) is not entertaining. Saying that taught her never to gossip is a good life lesson but wait, isn't this gossip? And if it didn't go far enough, now we know where the person in question lives?

    As usual, I'm not trying to be harsh but why do people find this entertaining? Basically, if the stories are true, she's pretending like she's a friend to this person and is picking them to pieces behind their back. I'm pretty unconventional and would like to think that any "friends" I have would either decide not to hang out with me or would just be upfront instead of making it a topic for other peoples amusement.

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     Teigyr, admittedly, I don't spend a lot of time on here, so I'm not familiar with the other posts you mentioned. But I did find the recent story entertaining, and it doesn't sound like the woman is a good friend of Gracie's. And she didn't name her.

     That said, I agree with you that I'd rather have someone confront me than talk about me behind my back. I prefer directness.

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     If I ever go to a woman's home and it is cold and she serves flies in her wine I am going to ask her if she has ever heard of Pickles;)

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     Good friend or not, if the story is true then Gracie was to her house for dinner, the woman gave her a present (however odd the situation was) and wants her to go on vacation with her. If it's a casual acquaintance, then chalk it up to life lesson and let it go. If it's a good friend, what's going on here is uncalled for. It's not entertaining, it is making someone into a fictional character purely to either occupy time/combat boredom or to be spiteful. If OP had etiquette questions, those could be asked in less of a gossiping fashion or those questions could be discussed in person with friends instead of a public OPEN forum. This could perhaps be the topic of happy hour with a friend or two, not written in a place that comes up on internet searches.

     Not naming the person doesn't really make it right, the intent is still there.

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     I can't disagree with you, Teigyr, though I did find the story entertaining.

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     I don't know why but I see no entertainment at all. I see a story being blown up bigger than life for the attention or out of boredom. I see one side of a story, if the story is true, without the other person around to defend themselves. I see it written in such a way that makes it seem like it's more of a question (is this strange?) but in reality keeps coming back to rip on this person. I might be harsh but trust me, I wouldn't do something like this to any of you no matter how strange you were if I went to your house :)

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     Teigyr, I don't understand why you care so much. I just don't. And is it really anyone's place to call Gracie out on her behavior here? It's just an Internet forum.

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     cheese "My feelings (whoa whoa whoa...feelings) about Las Vegas: When I heard that there was a Matisse painting in a casino there, a little part of me just up and died."
     As sad as it is, you made me laugh out loud.

     Teigyr - no way around it, you are right.

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     Vegas is ok, it is what it is. It used to be a fun roadtrip, love open desert drives not to mention Bun Boy and the Mad Greek.

     Calling out behavior is better than trashing an unsuspecting person anonymously. Gracie can defend herself, her friend can't. You're right though, I shouldn't care, I just don't get how so many people are entertained by gossip. Or maybe I should rethink that statement, people seem to be drawn to it.

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     I'm with you teigyr.

     I think whatever gracie does for a living grants her just a little to much time on the forum.

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     Teigyr, I don't mean to be critical of you. As I said, I can't disagree with you.

     I'll admit, I'm entertained by gossip, provided it isn't overly malicious. It's the journalist in me. I find people, and what makes them tick, endlessly interesting.

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     Me too CR. It think it's the writer/actor in me. I do find people's behavior and the possible reasons behind it fascinating especially my own.

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     I can't believe that this story is still going on.

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     smartsy - I, too, can't believe it is still going on.

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     gracie - It hadn't been bumped in 5 days until you added another story about her 23 hours ago..fwiw .. haHa;)

     Methinks that may have something to do with it still going.

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     Thanks for the clarification, Buffalo

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     I am a helper:) .. You are welcome.

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     teigyr + 1,000,000

     Those stories are whacked.

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     Come on now Gracie. You are Ballard's unofficial gossip girl. You thrive on it and there really isn't any point in denying it :-)

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     PG, don't be mean. I was at the store the other day and overheard the checkers saying they no longer go to MB because you pick on them.

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     With basketballs no less.

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     Yes, I heard that too. You are vicious with the basketballs beating up on both the employees and the homeless.

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