“I am astonished at how callous, rude, and plain inhumane some of the people on this post are. What decent, civilized human wouldn't give up a seat to a pregnant woman? Have you no manners whatsoever? How about the elderly? Didn't your parents teach you anything?”
No one here has said that they wouldn’t give up their seat to a pregnant person. All I said was that I think that person should ask for something if they want it. A person sitting down can’t be expected to read that person’s mind, and should not be expected to be the one to go out on an awkward social limb and offer a seat to someone who might very well be offended at the very notion that they are incapable of standing. I am more than happy to give up my seat for someone who is not able to stand comfortably. All I said is that it’s up to them to ask. That’s why the signs on the disabled seating on the bus say to give up the seat ‘when requested’.
“ksheyman...yes, in fact, it does make you a bad person. Why don't you ask YOUR mother how SHE would have liked standing on the bus when she was 9 months pregnant with YOU? Since you sound very young, (and from the name male) perhaps some time your pregnant wife might have to stand on the bus.”
It is rude and inappropriate to make personal assumptions and accusations about me because you disagree with the opinions I’ve expressed in a public forum about a topic I did not bring up. To answer your question, my mother would not have allowed herself to be in that position. She would have been assertive enough to ask for a seat if she wanted one. She raised me to speak up when I want something instead of standing there hoping someone decides to give it to me. I think it is misogynistic to suggest that a woman is incapable of being forceful with her needs and should depend on the chivalry of men. You should take a good hard look at what you are saying here.
"People are just shy..." is the most original excuse for bad behaviour I have ever read. Shy? I think not. Insensitive, callous, inhumane, and just plain rude is more like it.”
Since you do not refute my point but instead simply mock it, I’m not sure how to respond to this. Fear of social awkwardness is a powerful motivator. Remember that famous statistic that the majority of people fear public speaking more than they fear death? I don’t understand why you don’t think that the overpowering paranoia of being embarrassed is a legitimate motivator for action. You are projecting those traits (insensitive, callous, inhumane, rude) onto the people who didn’t stand up and offer their seats to a stranger in front of a bus full of strangers. Apparently you do not suffer from social anxiety. I think it’s you who is being insensitive.
“How about the elderly or the disabled? Should we sit on the bus listening to our I-Pods because we are "too shy" to do the decent thing and offer them our seats?”
Again, I do not accept the notion that it is my charge to go out of my way seeking out an invalid to help. This isn’t a scout troop, this is real life. There are no merit badges here. I’ve never suggested that anyone should refuse to help someone who asks for it. All I said is that being perceptive and addressing unspoken needs is NOT MY JOB as a casual rider of the transit system. If someone wants to listen to music on the bus and not pay attention they should be allowed to. If you want my seat, you can ask for it like a normal human being. Don’t just stand there silently stewing about the depraved state of humanity, that no one would give up their seat when you didn’t even ask.
Oh and gooner, I really didn't mean to sound uncaring about your wife. I don't know her and I shouldn't make assumptions about her personality. however i'd like you to call your mom and ask if she thinks it's okay to be rude and sarcastic to someone just because they disagree with you. i'd be very interested to hear her opinion.